Kaleido of Life!

              When we look through the kaleidoscope; we have no idea what patterns we see, whats the next pattern, never realize if that pattern even comes back again. Now i wonder if my life is exactly the same. No idea whats happening, what awaits me... beyond all if at all plans succeed.
     
             Am i living my passion? Do i like what am doing? Is everything going right? Am i happy with everything around?? Have i done things i always wanted to do? a thousands of such thoughts arise, leaving me clueless of my existence.

            A pilot in dreams is an engineer, a musician to be is a on a family business, a technocrat is tangled with  a stethoscope,  great artist is running errands with tea cups. Is everything fine??? Is the world on its right pace??? Where things went wrong??? Why is everything misplaced??? Who did this???



           Fate? Wrong choice? Your choice? People choose??? NOOOO..... society pressurizes, parents force, we bend to it. Place in society matters more than your passion. They judge every child worthy only when the child is a doctor or an engineer. Forced to take up studies seriously...plotted in colleges and when we are done with it ..we are already on their tracks.

        21 years of living these expectations, now its time you live your life;careless about society..it hardly will give your daily bread, fearless on your parents woes ...you already lived their expectations, stop blaming the world...nothing comes back. Here is your time,your youth, your energy, your wisdom, your smartness to face the world with whatever you wanted to do. ITS NEVER TOO LATE!!! We are still the clay ready to be molded... and this time
                       YOU ARE THE ARTIST OF YOUR OWN DESTINY!

         Frustrated with job?? don't like your work anymore?? feel like you wanna run away from this world?? Stop there... stop everything..start new..go ahead...life is your's...no one owns your rights of life. Your a fresh blooming flower each day, ready to blossom and amaze the world. Go ahead....

     LIFE IS YOUR'S,
    TODAY IS YOUR'S,
    WHO CARES WHAT TOMORROW WILL BRING,
     ALL WE CARE IS FOR OUR HEART TO HAPPILY SING!!

Lady under cover

On a lime day light, two men were seated next to each other in a bus seat. One was mufti, a muslim scholar and the other a young man. When suddenly the youth spoke up "I have one problem with you muslims...u oppress women!!!"

Mufti asked "How to we oppress women??" to which the youth answers  "You make ur women cover up completely and keep them at homes."

Mufti smiled n said "I have a problem wit u people..u oppress money!!!" The astonished youth asked "We oppress money??!!?? "

"You keep your money hidden away in wallets, banks and safes.You keep it covered up. Why dont u display it in the public???" said the mufti. "It might get stolen obviously!!!" said the casual youth.

"You keep the money hidden coz its so valuable. We value the true worth of women far far more. They are kept in honour and dignity!!!" replied the mufti walking out to get down, for his destination


A women's safety lies in the way she exposes herself to the society. Her attire, her walk, her talk bring senses as to what she expects from the society.

As you be...so they treat you!

Evolution of LoVe!

"Love" -the most favorite n talked upon topic amongst all age groups. Even kinder garden kids need their own boy frnd or gal frnd. For the age olds,  its the favorite chit chat to munch on. For the teens, its a part of their life.

Movies also corner love. A few years back, it was all about blooming love but now-a-days its moved on to the soaring to  love failures. Most of the heros and heroines end up in love marriage in the movies, and thats the happy ending. But damn, it doesnt even happen in their own real lives.

When i was in my 5th grade, that was the first time i was in a co-ed school, in Delhi. I studied in a Christian gals school in TN till then. The one thing i liked about the culture there in my school in Delhi was, there was no gender bias. We were asked to sit together, eat together and even games are to be played together; be it cricket or baseball. The only difference between us was, guys wore pants n girls skirts. No concession for girls and over work for guys.

Love, was a criminal offence to be talked on. The word "Love" was infectious, that we keep off from it. Staffs stare at you n parents change topic when talked about it. Any boy gal said to be in love, were treated untouchables, dont talk to them, and even sit with them; they are bad students. Such was the impression. But as far as i was, boys and gals were just good frndz n nothing more than that.

This offence worsened and continued, when i  moved back to TN again. Damn, you even look at guys, you were commented on. Talk to them, a crime committed. The worse part, when they start thinking u cheaper and comment on your character. The best thing to do, treat the other gender untouchables.Stay away from them. 

It dint make any difference, until i was in my high school. When i moved there, i found many blooming lovers. Stories of the struggle for love, one side love, many years love, etc etc. Loving part is the funny one! Guy n gal meeting in secrecy, for no staffs should know. Mobiles weren't so much in fashion, so meeting face to face or talkin in landline were the few choices. Every break, they would meet. I wonder, what on earth will they talk for so many years and in every break and almost all the time. 

It gets so shocking to know, when the timidest gal has a boyfrnd; a gal who could hardly spell a word before the class, can actually propose a guy. I dont understand their guts.

The generation changed the meaning of love. From the purest mother's love,that blooms for years, its love unexplained and unjustified; to the love, of which the meaning itself couldn't be defined, dis boy-gal love.
It really disheartens to know, when they lovers tell the other- your my life, i cant live without you, lets elope.

When u cannot understand the love of your parents for so many years;for your every need they satisfied, every mischief tolerated and your every tissue owed to them, how do u think u can understand love??!!??
When your 20yrs old love cannot be sustained, then just a 2yrs or 3months love will  sustain?? 

Such queries always crossed my mind, and made a worse impact of love on me. 

In college, a few loves continued, new ones bloomed, a few withered too. Beware of the lovers n love failure ones, their frndz are most unfortunate ones. All time radio broadcast, about their lovers. Frndz are just the mikes, listen to all what they say, dont speak back. Love failures are more dangerous cases to be handled. When they blame their ex, u gotta only listen to them. U can neither support nor scold them. 

College has its own love definiton coined- crush ( i tot it was crushing someone), committed ( it was life long promise i thought so,but no), breakup (committed s followed by this), boy/girl friend( a stage before being lovers it seems), lovers( they are in love;dont ask me if they really get married), patchup (when u get back again after breakup). N yeah one more the interesting one, puppy love (beware its not loving a puppy,its a love where you love just for timepass, no commitments no relationship and no ending up in marriage). 

Its got a series of relations to define. The teen love starts kinda dis way, first they are just frndz. Then they become best frndz, slowly someday boy/gal frndz, they are committed, then evloved into lovers. Its lasts a little long. The fight phase, they hav lotta things to fight on, get more possessive. They at this stage actually understand they wernt a perfect pair at all, then breakup. Sometimes patchup,a rare case though.Then back to single!! And the cycle goes on. 

The younger generation mistakes the hormones, the never lasting beauty, etc  for real love. Runs errands to find a love. Butterflies feeling in stomach, they think its love. Being close and caring to someone for sometime, doesn't define love. Love, at its purest, evolves from having no feelings on the person, and slowly understanding that person to the fullest.U know all about of the person and still like that person. A feeling that's strong enough to stand for years and of all storms, like ur granny, who still loves your grandpa after 50yrs of being together.

"You are not committed until you are married!!" -Anonymous  

I Don't Own My Smile! Neither Do u!!

" Sir, smile please!!" said the photographer  trying to take a pic of the guy.
" I cant..whenever i try to smile it doesnt look good" said he too much fed up.

"Sir, just widen your lips n shrink ur eyes,,, u r smiling :)"  said the photographer.
"Had it been that simple, no one would ever have a sad face dude.
Smile means more than just an expression on your face, its feeling man."

Smile, a beautiful expression u don't own. You give it to others, u are just paid back :)

The best smile you get, with the satisfaction that you made someone happy!

There, in a dense forest, lived a clan of people, just like all of us. Just one difference that these people dont have an elbow. Means their hands are always stretched straight, and they can't bend it!!

Now wonder what?? the most important thing..how will they eat?!!??
It kinda landed a curse on these people...in a lush green forest with almost everything to eat but none can eat.
This clan became sad, lean, hungry but could eat nothing.

One day, they met people of another clan.So happy, fat, healthy ....suprised bcoz their hands too dint have an elbow. Then how come they eat??? how are they so happy?? n healthy!!!

The reason they said was astonishingly superb. They said, " We dont have elbow, so we cant feed ourselves but we can feed others!!! thats what we do :) we feed each other!!"

When you make others happy no wonder, unknowingly you get that smile on your face!!! That happiness you deserve for the favour of happiness u do!!!

Make others happy, thats the way to be happy!!!

Raksha---A Promise Made!!!

Festive mood all around, energy all around. It wasn't deevali, neither holi, not even valentine's day!!!
Its Raksha Bandhan!!!

  Guys with hand full of colored ropes, proudly displaying it...as if they had won an Olympic cup.A proud feeling that they own so many sisters. A few looking out with eager eyes if anyone would tie them a rakhi. There are a still few running away and girls chasing them to tie a rakhi...the most funniest thing dat happens.

 

  In a most festive way, girl applies tilak on the brother's forehead, ties a rakhi on the wrist of her brother, feeds him with a few sweets and in return the brother acknowledges her with a gift.

   In Hindi,  "Raksha" means "protection" and " Bandhan" means "Bond"; "Raksha Bandhan" a bondage of protection. A girl ties a rakhi to her brother and in return the brother bestows blessings on his sister and a promise to protect her dignity, protect her from all the problems and difficulties.

  Its become a fantasy that girl ties a rakhi, the guy becomes a brother. This festive is no relation making, like tying a marriage knot around a girl's neck and she becomes a wife. Rakhi is a bond so sacred that promises protection and honor.

And in return for a rakhi, demanding a gift is another fantasy ;) just like a dowry in a marriage!!!

The best relation a girl can have, a feelings on top of the world...when she knows she has all the protection she needs. A way to express her love and care for her brother...and inturn when brother promises it all!!!

Happy Raksha Bandhan Brothers!!!
Am already feeling on the top of the world!!!

Lucky sister i am :D

Destination Destined!! Yet Journey Unknown!!!

A morning just like any other day but it wasn't so for the young boy who was woken up by his dad saying
" hay get up, results will be out in an hour...n u r still sleeping????"

He woke up so lazed out. No expectations or eagerness for the results to come. So calm was his mind but for the more expecting criticism outside.

Just like any other mom, the most loving n caring person on earth so faithfully believing and praying for her son's future was another eager person waiting.

In an hour his results were out. Dad read him out his score and wasn't so happy about it. Nothing much happened about his results until something hard struck them.

"Hay wats ur score man??" asked criticism. He replied, "Not much dude. Scored less".
"Ahh.. i told people you weren't studious...not u proved it. So last time when u scored it wasn't your hardwork but some crooked work and some help!!!!" said criticism too happy to know his fall down.

Astonished by the  words he looked at his dad, his eyes wide open, more astonished than he was...speechless he stood as though some vampire struck lashes at him.

His dad walked into his room. Not a word again, as he stood wondering what was going on.

He just closed his eyes in a flash he recalled those days.

A bright, hardworking, calm guy with only aspiration to study well and rise high. His intentions known by all yet jealousy criticized  often and would bring him down. But he would raise against all odds his spirits soared high.

It was the day when his secondary exams results had come. His hardwork was answered. His joys rejoicing.
Expectations met, prayers fulfilled, spirits rewarded. Yet the criticism had his role to play.

"Hay they say you got district second coz ur school helped you illegally  in getting so, so that its name would roar high!!! Is it??"

Now how could a reward be proved when its hardwork itself was doubted??? 

Those words struck him like the rain of spikes yet pain not revealed for his patience had still got its tuffness too hard to  be defeated.

"I will let the way my life leads me. My hardwork will prevail and i ll complain not my fate!!!" said he opening his eyes with a hard reality ahead.

A sudden knock at the door. He opened the door just expecting not any more such surprises dat pull him down when it was just changed by a smile on his face.

"Hay dude, how r u? Its been a long time since we met. Come in...am soo happy to see u" said he smiling like a baby at the sight of candy.

" Am fine man. I heard about ur results. Was shocked by the way people talked abt it. How come you scored less?? " asked his eager frnd, the only gud companion on earth who knew him well amidst all those criticisms.

He sadly replied, " What do i say, change of school...different environments..adaptation problem..unstable mind.....i thought i will write my exams the next year. But somehow my teachers made me write it this year.
I wasn't prepared enough to write them this year. I had already given up when i was suddenly asked to take them up. Whatever its all over now!!!"

"Ohh never mind man...it happens sometimes. So what planning to do next??" asked his friend.

"Joined B.Sc  man..." said he in a mild tone as though his strength was total exhausted.

His exclaimed frnd asked  "Y man??? R u crazy??? Ur scores are low but got a gud cutoff... you will get a gud clg in engineering...Dude thats your dream, don't let it down. People talks are just like mother- in- laws....finding faults in everything...this shouldn't drift u down. Go join engineering and live your dream!!!" 

He applied for engineering but continued to do his B.Sc. He got a seat in an  esteemed engg college.
But still people criticized of the course he chose.

Unaware was he.... of his destiny. The journey he was going through...the path too hard to climb.
Like climbing through the thorns....to reach the roses!!!

A confused he..aimless of what's happening...hardly could he see through the mist of his tangled mind.
Yet kept up his hardwork.....eagerness to do something...his faith in himself and spirits kept high as always.
Just waiting in patience, for the right time to show the world wat he s worth of.

He waited for four years, when it was time he proved himself of all odds, against all criticisms.
It was time for his placements.

Criticism again... how could it miss this moment...it's been a part of his life now.
It said, "Your course doesn't offer a gud placement...you are going to be jobless like the many others out there. "

Now that he was already used to all these...it din't sound any worse this time but just put it on his faith so hard to work out through it.

A month later...he was walking his way to the market with his dad.

A guy stopped him on his way and with foxy eyes asked him " Hay...u seem to be jobless like i told you.
I know u cant make it any good. You realised it too late now. You are now doing the household chores...hahahaa".

His dad now had to repay the past debt, he said, "He is now placed in an MNC and is not as jobless as you are son. He is just living his dreams now!!!"

The guys was just "!!????!!!!?!?!?!" and looked at him...as he stood with a pleasant smile.
Pleasant smile is wat it was ...but for that guy...it was like the wind that struck him so hard of the reality..
shook  him of his senses. Bestowed on the every pain he suffered when he was criticized.

Now he proved himself...not by his words...but by the very smile that was long lost into the sea of pain, of sufferings unexplainable.

He, the sandalwood in a forest where snakes surround...
That now lay in a castle with admirers around!!!

Incy Vincy Girly Facts!!!

"The girl out there is very arrogant dude" said a guy pointing out to a profile on facebook to his friend.
"Why man...what did she do??" exclaimed the other one.

 "Oh man, she wont accept my friend request at all!!" said the first one.

"Just chill dude!!! these girl are just show off. As if we r the bad guys.Even if they accept they are not goin to let u see all the stuffs in their profile. All we see is a cute baby pic as their dp. Better let go." said the other one in kinda rude tone.

"Why dont u create a fake girl's account??? i guess that way you will know why we do so like this." said so a pretty looking girl sitting behind them, probably overheard the conversation.And walked off as though she was proud of the statement. Atleast these guys thought so.

It was just 2 days, when these guys had already taken up this challenge.A profile created. A beautiful looking girl smiling was the profile picture. Besides was a great name that perfectly the picture. Not so much of privacy. They decided to accept any request that came.
The profile was all set to explore.

In just a few days again...the account looked something like this. The account inbox was flooded. Friend requests already waiting in dozens. A row of names ran down in the poke list. Curious to know what had happened...the guys opened the inbox
 "Maaaan....what the hell is this!!!" shouted the guy.

Just peeping in the other saw...alotta texts from guys. Barely could the content be spelled. Though some sounded good..others were just total hell. Chats in the profile was another heck.

All they did was went to the settings...click deactivate.
And walked out, when they saw the same girl passing by. When their eyes met hers all they could possibly do was just smile.

And say  "Its real tuff being a girl !!!"

Trust Me Not!!!!

Am like the wind, will flow away;

Dont try to catch me.

Am like the clouds, will pass by;

Dont wish to own me.

Am like the rainbow, will vanish soon;

Dont get used to me.

Am like the shooting star,will blast off;

Dont sit n wait for me.

Am like the water, will slip away;

Dont hold me.

Am like the flower, will wither away;

Dont cry for me.

Am like a victim with fragile hands, will break it all;

Dont bestow ur heart to me. 

I blame none but myself,
For the follies done.
Kindly, dont trust me,
Am a knot difficult to be undone!!!

I am TIME!!!
I am like time!!!

~~~~~Act foolish n Break the Rulz!!!!~~~~~ Even the king bowes to play ur rulz!!!

During my school life, guys in my school formed a gang...they named it so catchy "Brk D Rulz"!!!!
It was just found all over the school...in their bags, benches, walls, bands...it was their slogan too.
All for publicity!!?!!!

It was THE most irritating word to the staffs out der... the pranks they played n enjoyment they had was such.
Best part...staffs knew them pretty well  n still weren't caught coz they did break the rules but they were just too amazing to be punished!!!  instead guru's liked these petty smart gang!!!!

Someone said sea was end of land dont cross it...u ll angry the divine!!!
Lo n behold....had we not crossed seas i would have never talked english :D Clombus wouldn't have discovered the richie America.

World said. ..its a rule heavier objects cant fly. Wright brothers proved them wrong.
Now something heavier than a deluxe bus flies on the sky...watch out!!!

A philosopher said, air n water are freely available they cant be caught n sold.
Just chill dude...now mineral water s business n oxygen cylinders are costly!!!

A lady commented, "What does a deaf know about music??? "
Widen ur eyes mam.... Beethoven ...Ludvig Van Beethoven, who gave the best music to the world was completely deaf!!!

Doctors looked at a baby n said, "This child's survival is doubtful." The baby survived. At the age of 4, she contracted double pneumonia and scarlet fever, which left her with a paralyzed leg. Now she couldn't walk her entire life.
Com'on man...she is Wilma Rudolph.The little girl who went on to win THREE OLYMPIC GOLD MEDALS!!!!

Buddies that was history were breaking rules just made us go awwww!!!
Now its our time. Don't hesitate to sound foolish..all achievers were fools...i mean ppl called them so.

Lets all Brk The Rulz....n show the World we are always a step ahead of the lines they drew!!!!

The Third Side of A Coin!!!

Very recently i sat down to watch an IPL match. I dont watch cricket regularly neither am i a fan of it. But having been jobless, i tried watching the game. Match had not started by then. It was time to toss the coin.
Coin was tossed. It flew up in the air....all eager heads were lifted up in the air!!!

 Coin fell down... n all asked "Head or Tail???? "
 I just asked "What if its neither of them??".
 A voice behind me furiously replied "Fool...it has to be either of the two. There is no other side."

Now i ask u all....are there only 2 sides in a coin???????

Take a look at ur coin again....look carefully...there is a 3rd side in a coin, unfortunately none of us noticed or that none realized there is one.

How many times we played with those coins...analysed every writings in it, made circles from it, studied probability, tossed in air, kept it rolling and made it stand on the third side of the coin!!! dint we???  But we still dint realise there was another side.

U know y??????

Because right from childhood we hear head or tail...dats it.
When the whole world said so...we believed it so....

Dats our problem frndz....When the world said it...we believed in it.

We dint talk back....its ok,
But we dint think back  too!!!


Now let me put it in a much harder way....

At school, only 2 courses we knew....Biology or Computer science;
After school, only 2 streams we knew...Engineering or Medical;
An Engineer knows only 2 jobs...either a s/w company or a BPO.

Just lik 2 sides of a coin....
Shall i call it funny or label it pathetic?????

Is there no course to take up but for bio n cse????
Are there no other streams but for engg n medicine????
Has this world given just 2 jobs to choose from????

Think Think Think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wake up guys....Its already too late....

Our mistake is we walk with the world...not knowing where it takes us, but just that all walk so i walk too.
Taking  the same road everyone takes....
Not that we like walking with them...
But that we are afraid to take a new road...
For the fear of getting lost!!!!

The fact is...
Its now that we are lost in the crowd... unidentified, unknown, hopeless, struggling to survive.
Frndz.....


Step out of this usual road...
Explore a new untaken one ....
Each of us are unique....
I dont say so...
God created us so...

Prove the world u r not among the crowd....u r different n above the crowd.
Show the world how UNIQUE you are!!!!!


Explore the third side of ur coin....Gud Luck :)

What am i bare handed with a B.E. besides my name???

A fine evening. I was lying down texting my frndz. So many replies beeped in my mobile.

 Before that let me tell u ....lik many of the ppl here am an engineer too. Luckily got placed. But still waiting for my company to call me, and so is my current status.

During college i always wanted it to end. Not that i was bored of it, just that i wanted to lay down with a free head so idle that i have no tension to think of. But how long is it going to last???? In my case not more than a week. Boredom hit me hard. I decided to take up a job.

Now starts the real story.

My first step into the so called OUTSIDE WORLD. I went in search of a job. I dint get into BPO's for  i thought its guys stuff maybe coz most of them were in night shifts. I tried a simple part of lecturing. Confident enough of getting it, i applied.

I got the reply the very next day. Quick enough it was but hard enough for me to digest. They dint want me to take in engg clg....instead suggested me in a polytechnic.My story was just this short and simple.

I texted all this to a frnd of mine. But the replies were even worse than i imagined.

I got a reply something lik dis " Y did i take up engineering? People laugh at me when they learn am an engineer. I wasted my life doing this course. Professionals are not treated professionally anymore."

Hard to listen. But these words were a scream from an engineering student who has set out to this outside world just in search of a job. Wanna know what made that person say so????

Read on..i ll tell u his story.

Well dressed, smart looking, file in hand, full of confidence, more enthu than ever...all set to attend an interview.  Reached the venue on time. Lot many like him were there too. A guy spoke up to him "Hay dude..What are u doin?" Very proudly he replied "Finished my engineering. Looking for a job".
To this the guy started laughing. The other around smiling.

Curious to know the reason, he asked " what makes u laugh at this??"
The guy said "Dude, we are all Arts students. Companies ask for Arts and Diploma students not Engineers."

That was hard to digest.But the fact is...Engineers need to be paid more than an Arts and diploma student.Just becoz its a professional course. So they prefer no engg.

This sad part doesnt stop here. It worsens when u r an engg from Tamil Nadu.

Like Bill Gates said "One day, every house in this world will have computer with Microsoft running in it".
Something similar happened here....not similar something more than just  similar happened....
" An engineer in every street....no no....2 engineers in every house." 200 and odd engineering colleges,more than 5 universities  in just a state.!!!

Is an engineer really valued????

Govt gave 250 colleges....did it give dat many jobs????

It gave education loans to all students....gud job!!!
But did the Govt realise how ll dat student repay it???

I write this with utter disheartenment....
Like a grievance from a poor farmers son.
Loan on his head....responsibilities on his shoulder...expectations lurking....still wandering helpless.
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i donno how to end this up....sorry